Getting Back On Your Feet : Breakups are hard. They can be extremely painful and leave you feeling lost, lonely, and confused about your future. Even if you know it’s for the best, breakups sometimes feel like the end of the world. You probably have a million questions running through your head, like what went wrong? How will I recover from this? Is there anyone out there better for me? It may seem impossible now, but with time you will get past this and move on with your life. To do that, you need to understand why the breakup happened, heal from the pain of it, and learn how to move forward positively. Here is how you do that…
1) What to do when you get dumped
If you get dumped, remember no one breaks up with you because they hate you. They do it because they need to be with themselves, not you. It’s not your fault, and there is nothing you can do to change their mind. Remember that you’re not broken, and you don’t need to be fixed. There is no perfect person out there for anyone. All people have flaws, including you.
2) Take time to grieve
When you are going through a breakup, you are grieving the loss of a relationship, just like you would grieve the loss of a loved one. It’s important to take time to grieve the relationship so you can move past it and onto the next chapter of your life. Grieving takes time, but if you don’t take the time to do it, you will likely have trouble moving on from the breakup.
For example, you may have made memories with your ex that you’ll want to keep. Maybe you want to keep the gifts they gave you, or maybe you want to keep the pictures they took together. There is nothing wrong with that, but be careful not to keep anything that reminds you of the breakup itself.
3) Rebuilding your self-esteem
After a breakup, you may be dealing with low self-esteem. This can happen if you have been criticizing yourself or putting yourself down for a long time, or if your partner was critical of you. Your low self-esteem can make it hard to move past the breakup, and it can make future relationships harder. That’s why it’s so important to rebuild your self-esteem.
The best way to do that is to change the way you talk to yourself. Make sure you stop criticizing yourself and putting yourself down. Instead, start to build yourself up with positive self-talk. When you have high self-esteem, it will be easier to move past the breakup, and it will be easier to have healthy relationships in the future.
4) Meet up with your friends
After a breakup, it can be tempting to hole up in your room and just wait for the pain to go away. That isn’t a great idea though. You need to get out of the house, and you need to surround yourself with positive people. Most importantly, you need to be around people who will truly listen to you and understand why you’re sad. They don’t even have to say anything, they just need to be there for you.
5) Don’t rush into a new relationship
When you’re going through a breakup, it can be tempting to rush into a new relationship. You may feel like the best way to get over your ex is by getting a new person. However, that is rarely the case. You need to heal from the breakup before you can have a positive new relationship. You need to learn from the breakup and use it to make yourself a better person. If you rush into a new relationship, you may repeat the same mistakes or you may not fully heal from your last relationship. That will make it harder for you to find love in the future.
6) Learn from the experience
Every relationship you’ve ever been in has given you life-changing experiences. No two relationships are the same, and they all teach you something. The key is to not let the bad experiences hold you back but to learn from them and let the good experiences help you grow and advance in life. For example, if your partner cheated on you, you need to find out why it happened and if there is anything you can do to prevent it from happening again.
You also need to look at what role you played in the situation. Did you cause the other person to cheat? Did you neglect your partner or yourself? Did you communicate with your partner? The experience of your breakup can help you prevent it from happening again in the future.
When someone ends a relationship with you, it’s painful, confusing, and scary. It’s easy to want to rush back into another relationship to try to replace the lost one, but unfortunately, you can’t rush the healing process. You need to take the time to grieve the end of your last relationship, rebuild your self-esteem, and learn from the experience before you can move on to your next relationship.